How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  1. pradeepta virlley
    pradeepta virlley
    38 perccel

    Amazing... Will implement this for sure... Thanks a lot for this talk.....

  2. William Hayes
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  3. Gagan sidhu Jaid
    Gagan sidhu Jaid
    3 órája

    Amazing

  4. Surin Lee
    Surin Lee
    4 órája

    wow when he said "you will always keep your value" yesss

  5. Jim Hubbard
    Jim Hubbard
    7 órája

    Skip to 6:00 to get to it.....

  6. DAWID ZIEMSKI
    DAWID ZIEMSKI
    13 órája

    Impresive speach...two simple rules which made youre life better...and what is mere important easier.

  7. LeLem **
    LeLem **
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  8. Kavika Lo
    Kavika Lo
    17 órája

    4.3k people who disliked this video took it personally.

  9. YouTube Addict
    YouTube Addict
    20 órája

    Geez, this one is a hard one! No doubt the world would be a much better place if we all applied this to our lives incl me, but damn, this would take decades of discipline

  10. LancelotGraal
    LancelotGraal
    20 órája

    That's all very nice, but he's saying things I already know, since I've had countless therapies and workshops and watched thousands of videos... I KNOW how not to take thinks personally, but I still CAN'T do it. I do not see how a few dozen more videos or therapies are gonna help... Honestly, after watching this video who suddenly feels like they are capable, now, to not take things personally?

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    Solomon Killeen
    22 órája

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  12. ThePestoman
    ThePestoman
    22 órája

    What a wonderful message. Im going to share this with my kids so they learn about their value!

  13. Chris Lim
    Chris Lim
    23 órája

    This guy : How to not take things personally Michael Jordan : And I, took that personally

  14. Gsoup83
    Gsoup83
    Napja

    its just at work when managers say dont take things so personally, most likely they have a habit of mistreating employees..what they are really saying is im not good at my job and i will treat like i want and you better take it. unfortunately too many of us take it, cause we are working on not taking things personally.

  15. Alaa Yousef
    Alaa Yousef
    Napja

    that really touched my heart dude ❤

  16. It's Claire
    It's Claire
    Napja

    I really love this! This really applies to all. As I was listening, I was also thinking about how many times I took things personally in my relationship.

  17. eleni lavvas
    eleni lavvas
    Napja

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  18. Min-Bau Liao
    Min-Bau Liao
    Napja

    great speech, definitely 10 out of 10.

  19. Aleta Fye Ogayon
    Aleta Fye Ogayon
    Napja

    What other people's opinion of you will never define your value as a person. As long as you know yourself and you know that you do not do anything that will harm other people, then you're good. Never let anyone's opinion of you affect you because for sure, anybody has always something to say and they always have the right to tell you anything but you have to remember that you also have the right to prove them wrong. Never listen to anyone who brings you down instead use it as a fuel for you to keep going and reach your goal in life. You matter. ❤️

  20. alle126
    alle126
    Napja

    This was really good!

  21. Fabiana Rivas
    Fabiana Rivas
    Napja

    There should be an "i Love It" buttom

  22. Surbhi Singh
    Surbhi Singh
    Napja

    His presentation and speaking skills kept me in through out the video. This would have taken a lot of practice!

  23. Melinda Lamb
    Melinda Lamb
    Napja

    I just had this conversation with my Daughter Nicole. Wow, what timing. Praying she doesn't get offended 🙏.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      Napja

      I hope it together with you Melinda!

    2. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
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    3. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      Whtsaap him*

    4. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      He was the person who helped me manifest my ex back to me two days ago with out delay 💯💯

    5. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

  24. Intellectually Wailed
    Intellectually Wailed
    Napja

    This is really interesting because the first strategy does the complete opposite for me, when i try to think about others intentions my social anxiety makes me think that I'm the problem....my personal strategy is to live my world and make it a really tiny world so that I don't lose control and always stay me, my style ,my hobbies my thoughts, my nerves and everyone else is just an audience...and that's how I don't take things personally

    1. Intellectually Wailed
      Intellectually Wailed
      Napja

      @Frederik Imbo thank you

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      Napja

      Hi! To be honest; I get a bit sad when I read this. Just because I genuinely believe that the strategy 'It's not about me could really help you with your social anxiety. everyone is responsible for making their needs being met. And thus; you're NOT responsible for meeting their needs. And to me, this is so tragic then that you choose to live your life hiden, in your own safe bubble. However, if it works for you, who am I to question this? I truly wish you all the best with it!

    3. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      You can text him now

    4. Intellectually Wailed
      Intellectually Wailed
      Napja

      @Julissa's messages oh shoot, hey I appreciate that!! I'll check him after my exams tho...thanks again

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      Julissa's messages
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  25. Andrea Albert
    Andrea Albert
    2 napja

    This was great. Thank you so much! It served me a lot

    1. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
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      Julissa's messages
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      Whtsaap him*

    3. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      He was the person who helped me manifest my ex back to me two days ago with out delay 💯💯

    4. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

    5. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Andrea Albert! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  26. Kavya
    Kavya
    2 napja

    So true. You have given practical strategies, which overcome the emotional burden we put ourselves through by taking things personally.👍

    1. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
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    2. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      Whtsaap him*

    3. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      He was the person who helped me manifest my ex back to me two days ago with out delay 💯💯

    4. Julissa's messages
      Julissa's messages
      Napja

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

    5. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Kavya! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  27. DoktahArk
    DoktahArk
    2 napja

    I'm beginning to suspect that, in fact, he manipulated that first coin toss

    1. DoktahArk
      DoktahArk
      2 napja

      @Frederik Imbo what a scumbag, huh? I'm taking that personally

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Honestly? Yes!

  28. DoktahArk
    DoktahArk
    2 napja

    Turns out young Harold was not hiding His pain all along

  29. Trina Perry
    Trina Perry
    2 napja

    So simple, and yet such an elusive goal to accomplish. One victory at a time...thanks so much.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Trina! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  30. WELD MACHINE
    WELD MACHINE
    2 napja

    Everyone has there own battles going on in there lives each day. We just Never think they are actually worse off today than we are. Think about it this way ? If you have an absolutely terrible day when everything keeps going wrong. We feel upset or possibly angry. When we see someone else having a worse day than us. We think about how small our problem is now. Funny how this happens ??

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Very true!

  31. André Fierens
    André Fierens
    2 napja

    From Me to We , It is not about me ! I like it ! Nothing to do with ME ! Don't take it Personnaly ! - It Is about ME ! You are an Orange ! Give Yourself Empathy ! You always keep your Value !

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Nice summary André! Thanks!

  32. J ul
    J ul
    2 napja

    what a cutie

    1. J ul
      J ul
      Napja

      the way ;)

    2. J ul
      J ul
      2 napja

      @Frederik Imbo oh i didn't know it would be you replying personally, awesome hahaa!!!! i really liked the walk you connect with the audience and how smooth and pleasant is your attitude. congratulations you did great and seem to be a very nice person! :)

    3. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Ooooooh! Thanks J ul!

  33. Andrej Majerle
    Andrej Majerle
    2 napja

    Good one.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      thanks Andrej!

  34. daniel Jeffrey
    daniel Jeffrey
    2 napja

    Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance wealth, a great career purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    1. Noah Jeffrey
      Noah Jeffrey
      2 napja

      But I don't know why people remain poor due to ignorance

    2. Jude Victoria
      Jude Victoria
      2 napja

      You are right sir

    3. Julie Linda
      Julie Linda
      2 napja

      But I don't know why people remain poor due to ignorance

    4. Laura Cynthia
      Laura Cynthia
      2 napja

      1. Crypto 2. Stocks 3. Shores

    5. Laura Cynthia
      Laura Cynthia
      2 napja

      Assets that can make one successful in life

  35. Uroboros
    Uroboros
    2 napja

    "we suffer far more by our imagination than ever in reality" -Seneca

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Very very true, those wise words!

  36. Gracie Titus.
    Gracie Titus.
    2 napja

    AMAZING AMAZING. no one can change your value, only you. Good job done.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Gracie Titus (what a funny name)! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  37. Bright David
    Bright David
    3 napja

    Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance wealth, a great career purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

    1. Jude mason
      Jude mason
      2 napja

      I used demo account but can't make real profit.

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      Divis Wang
      2 napja

      You can't make a withdrawal profit from a demo account

    3. Roger Bailey
      Roger Bailey
      2 napja

      growing an account requires dedication and patience

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      Roger Bailey
      2 napja

      forex trading has left me on Choice but keep investing with Mrs Laura David because it makes so much profit for me

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      Duvis wang
      2 napja

      expert Mrs Laura David has really made name for herself

  38. lindsey gorsuch
    lindsey gorsuch
    3 napja

    he put $ in his mouth! I hope he didn't get sick after. Was there even an audience? No one laughed or raised a hand...weird.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Lindsey, I can comfort you. the talk was launched in March of 2020, but was recorded in February of 2019. So long before corona! And the note was sanitized beforehand. The audience was quite quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

  39. Designed By Discipline
    Designed By Discipline
    3 napja

    This is just as much about Cognitive Bias as anything else. However, when it's friends, it's usually ALWAYS personal.

    1. Designed By Discipline
      Designed By Discipline
      14 órája

      @Frederik Imbo Yes that is your choice, however, there is such a thing called cognitive bias, which is also in play here.. I never mentioned anything about taking it personally. Read my comment again.

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Even when it's friends, and even when it's personal, you can decide to not to TAKE it personally.

  40. Yamuna Sharma
    Yamuna Sharma
    3 napja

    Really need much much experience & life skills to express such a words of wisdom..... Thank you so much sir.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Yamuna! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  41. Arjun Bobade
    Arjun Bobade
    3 napja

    🌈“More smiling, less worrying. More compassion, less judgment. More blessed, less stressed. More love, less hate.”

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Very True! Thanks!

  42. Education with Tech
    Education with Tech
    3 napja

    Thanks sir, for the video.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  43. beau heaven
    beau heaven
    3 napja

    powerful last words

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  44. McGee Family
    McGee Family
    3 napja

    This is exactly what I was needing right now. 💙💚

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi McGee Family, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  45. Phyllis Windes
    Phyllis Windes
    4 napja

    I needed this! So I plan to send it with the acknowledgement that it really helped me. Hopefully my admission will diffuse any hurt feelings in the receiver.

    1. Phyllis Windes
      Phyllis Windes
      Napja

      @Frederik ImboIt was very kind of you to reply. Thank you. Keep on blessing people with your words and your life!

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Phylilis! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  46. Dave DFW
    Dave DFW
    4 napja

    4.3k people took it personally

  47. Lena Tsering
    Lena Tsering
    4 napja

    Very helpful And down-to-Earth practicable!

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Hi Lena, Thank you very much for your kind compliment. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  48. Frank Woms
    Frank Woms
    4 napja

    Joy runs in my heart, I am totally free from Herpes after many years of trying so many medications no result. I am now negative after using the herbal medications I got from Dr. Umoru on HUfrom.

  49. Kelly Moo
    Kelly Moo
    4 napja

    14:30 :"

  50. Tarun Verma
    Tarun Verma
    4 napja

    Well the good thing is don't be over attentive about people Rather focus upon Ur work Be attentive about it

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      2 napja

      Very true Tarun.

  51. 180-Shreya Gupta
    180-Shreya Gupta
    4 napja

    this was so so good ! thank you for your values. its just so motivating

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi 180-Shreya Gupta, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  52. Beweave
    Beweave
    4 napja

    I already had the first strategy down but I always felt that it wasn't enough and now that I've seen the rest of the methods I feel more equipped to give it another go. thank you for this

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Beweave, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  53. Peter Lewis
    Peter Lewis
    4 napja

    I couldn't watch because of the tinnitus-like sound

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Peter. Sorry to read that there was a highly picked droning that disturbed you so much. I have no idea where it came from. Could you try to listen to my talk with another device and tell me whether you have still the same? It's so strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that annoying noise. Hopefully you'll be able to listen to it properly on another device without any hassle.

  54. Benjamin
    Benjamin
    4 napja

    And if someone tries to murder you don't take it personally and let them achieve their aim

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Benjamin. What do you think yourself of your question? Of course you'll do anything in your power to prevent to be killed.

  55. Joshua McCrae
    Joshua McCrae
    4 napja

    So basically... don't be Michael Jordan?

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      basically don't think like he's thinking about this yes.

  56. Sherry Denny
    Sherry Denny
    4 napja

    Thank you so much. Needed this right about now.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Sherry, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  57. broskisephine
    broskisephine
    5 napja

    about to send this to my friend XD

    1. broskisephine
      broskisephine
      4 napja

      @Frederik Imbo i loved your talk, thanks for hosting one!! :)

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Broskisephine, I hope that he or she liked it and it was valuable for them.

  58. Sid Dodge
    Sid Dodge
    5 napja

    Exellent

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Thanks Sid Dodge.

  59. Dinesh Singh
    Dinesh Singh
    5 napja

    Nice

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Thank you Dinesh.

  60. Darsh Ranasinghe
    Darsh Ranasinghe
    5 napja

    What a way to complete the speech.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Darsh. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  61. Souta
    Souta
    5 napja

    omg that last scene make me rethink my life

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Souta. Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  62. miko
    miko
    5 napja

    I will save you around 17 minutes and tell straight away. You will stop taking things personally once you stop believing you are the most important person in the world and the universe. You are someone but yet nobody essential.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Miko. I agree. We're not the centre of the universe. Our ego thinks we are. But in fact, we're just a tiny part of it.

  63. Mercide
    Mercide
    5 napja

    What is our value? What is it if the world's system tells us its performance, intelligence, the amount of money you own? How do we not lose our value if that is what the majority thinks is our value? Please explain these three questions.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Mercide. Thank you for your three questions. one: you and only you determines your value. It's your goal to like and appreciate yourself. Not the task of someone else. two: of course society will also value us, give us a salary, reward us or classify us. That's ok and this tells everything about the judger's preferences and needs. It does not tell anything about how we value ourselves from within us. three: again; your value depends of yourself. "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now - isn't this the ultimate slavery?" - sadhguru. I hope my answers to your question are helpful for you Mercide.

  64. Hawa Mohd
    Hawa Mohd
    5 napja

    My supervisor always critic me on how i handle my worker. I feel bad like i'm doing it just like how you teach me. But, why it's not enough.

    1. Hawa Mohd
      Hawa Mohd
      3 napja

      @Frederik Imbo sorry my english so bad. I am production line leader in an electronic factory. My supervisor at work always critic me on how i handle my operator. But, i'm doing the work just like how she teach me. When there problem, she want me to inform her. But then she mad because how the problem can occur at the first place. She say i'm not monitor the operator. Sometimes the operator not listen to me.

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Hawa. I don't understand your question. could you explain it a bit more?

  65. Kiefer Moyaert
    Kiefer Moyaert
    5 napja

    Wow, as a ginger myself, this helped a lot!

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Super Kiefer Moyaert! Laat je door niets of niemand van je stuk brengen! Groeten in Torhout!

  66. Raquel Mejía
    Raquel Mejía
    5 napja

    I work at a call center, another prefect place to learn how to not take things personally

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Very true!

  67. Florinda Holmes
    Florinda Holmes
    5 napja

    tks

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      With pleasure Florinda!

  68. Abel Paré De Bellefeuille
    Abel Paré De Bellefeuille
    5 napja

    🌀©️®️™️🏴‍☠️🚨⛔️🕵🏻‍♀️😂

  69. Justin Weaver
    Justin Weaver
    5 napja

    Seriously who are the people who thumbs downed this? This was a great talk that applies to probably 90% of people

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Justin. Thank you for your enthusiastic response. Maybe those people don't agree with my message or did not like my personality?

  70. Riadh eddine Boulahchich
    Riadh eddine Boulahchich
    5 napja

    even if they laugh at you, it's not about you they are just boosting their ego and think they are more cool than others

    1. Riadh eddine Boulahchich
      Riadh eddine Boulahchich
      3 napja

      @Frederik Imbo Thank you sir.

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Very true Riadh.

  71. Riadh eddine Boulahchich
    Riadh eddine Boulahchich
    5 napja

    it's okay if they are not interested, people have many agenda by their actions it's not just about you

  72. TH TK
    TH TK
    5 napja

    I recommended this video to a friend of mine after I watched it and found a great value. However, my friend took it personal.

    1. TH TK
      TH TK
      3 napja

      @Frederik Imbo thank you for sparing your time for reply. I do indeed! Your video is a game changer in my life. It helped me to have a paradigm shift in how I can respond to peoples behavior and in how I behave as well. Thank you so much!

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      How sad. Now you know how not to take his reaction personally!

  73. miki i am
    miki i am
    5 napja

    😆😆

  74. Олеся Ру
    Олеся Ру
    6 napja

    I like how he is nodding his head)

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      super!

  75. False Note Fest
    False Note Fest
    6 napja

    Hey don't do politics, you are english and you use an Euro ???!!!! I take that personally !

    1. False Note Fest
      False Note Fest
      4 napja

      @Frederik Imbo Hi I am french. I am happy to hear that you are using the Euro Deutch Mark in Belgium too. Your conference is very useful, thank you very much and you can punish French footballers because they are cheaters

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi, I'm not British. I'm Belgian and we use Euros here.

  76. George Afleckket
    George Afleckket
    6 napja

    There are several components to treatments for shyness. One resource I discovered that successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the most helpful blueprint i've seen. Check out the awesome information .

  77. J
    J
    6 napja

    You will always know your value. the ending is very powerful.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi J, Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  78. Xavier Zayne
    Xavier Zayne
    6 napja

    So, should I take this guy seriously?

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Xavier. You can decide yourself whether you take my message seriously or not.

  79. Nova Jenkins
    Nova Jenkins
    6 napja

    Here's some tips for beating the fear of driving 1) Take control of your own life. 2) Learn about the power of the mind. 3) Follow in the tracks of people who have already overcome the fear. I got these tips from the Roys Quick Fix (check it out on google) without a doubt the best info on success that I've heard of.

  80. Inday Jocelyn
    Inday Jocelyn
    6 napja

    why to low sound

  81. Savio Fernandes
    Savio Fernandes
    6 napja

    I took this video personally

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      haha Savio. Please don't.

  82. Naveen Mohan
    Naveen Mohan
    6 napja

    Beautifully said👏🏼

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Naveen Mohan. Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  83. Florence Lecot
    Florence Lecot
    6 napja

    This should be teaches to every one, in primary schools or other schools. You are a genious Fred

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Florence! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  84. Tanzeem Shabnam
    Tanzeem Shabnam
    6 napja

    he seems like a very kind person

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Well, I am... at least most this is what I aim for most of the times. Thanks Tanzeem.

  85. Sa Mya
    Sa Mya
    6 napja

    Who’s noticing he touched his stomach when he feeling bad??

  86. Slivress Sliver
    Slivress Sliver
    6 napja

    One of my biggest failings is taking things personally and becoming an irritated grump. I already knew this truth, but this video is going on my watchlist as a reminder, lol. Thank you!

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Slivress Silver, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  87. Juniper
    Juniper
    6 napja

    Wow. This is actually incredibly insightful advice. As a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder, I tend to take the smallest slights with feelings of utter betrayal or abandonment. After watching this video, I’m going to try and put these practices conscientiously in my interactions with others. Great job man! Extraordinary thinking.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you as someone who suffers from Borderline. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  88. drgn
    drgn
    6 napja

    The video thumbnail looked like Prince Harry

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      haha! You're not the first one who thought so.

  89. t sam
    t sam
    7 napja

    Wearing leotards for pants. A real metrosexual soy-boy. Real men don't wear pants like those. Those are girlie pants.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Thank you for your advise. However, I'm really ok with my pants.

  90. Rick Nelson
    Rick Nelson
    7 napja

    People fail not because they can`t deal with an outward situation it is the inner or mental conflict that defeats them.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      very very true Rick. All the seawater in the world can't sink a ship, unless the ship takes on water. All the negativity in the world can't touch you, unless you let it.

  91. 2 in the Box Podcast
    2 in the Box Podcast
    7 napja

    That finale was incredible. If you aren't able to understand that message, watch it again. Sometimes the easiest message needs to be repeated. There's no shame in that.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi '2 in the Box Podcast', Thank you for your gentle message! I'm glad you liked the ending of my TEDx talk with the 20 euro note and the fact that your worth always stays the same, regardless what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching till the end! I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  92. Craz Violin
    Craz Violin
    7 napja

    Very simple...to the point and very informative. I appreciate you

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Hi Craz Violin, Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  93. abdulkareem abdullah
    abdulkareem abdullah
    7 napja

    i love this

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      4 napja

      Thanks Abdulkareem Abdullah!

  94. Treasa Lynam
    Treasa Lynam
    7 napja

    20 pounds a month????????????????? That's personal!!!😅😅😂😅

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      7 napja

      haha! It's my choice.

  95. Deep N
    Deep N
    7 napja

    Totally relatable 💯... really needed this 🙌 🙏 tysm 💖

    1. Deep N
      Deep N
      7 napja

      😊🥰😊

    2. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      7 napja

      Hi Deep N! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  96. Raging Kid
    Raging Kid
    7 napja

    “OK fine..” - Michael Jordan

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      7 napja

      haha indeed!

  97. mister mister
    mister mister
    7 napja

    When someone flashes and honks behind me when i'm driving the godamn speed limit, I TAKE IT PERSONALY. Of course I'm considerate and take my time stoping the car and educate the other person with punches to the head or a bat to the windshield.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      7 napja

      Ok mister mister, go for it if this makes you happy.

  98. Renjit J
    Renjit J
    7 napja

    HUfrom seems to be reading my thoughts! Highly relevant and well presented. The ending note tops it all up.

    1. Frederik Imbo
      Frederik Imbo
      7 napja

      Hi Renjit J! Thank you very much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

  99. ghaza abdou
    ghaza abdou
    7 napja

    Who am I ?😞 why I exist?😔 What is my destiny?😢 These questions and made the whole world . You will find its solutions or answers only in Islam😃😍😇 The sad people in the universe are so many .. but in Islam you move from happiness to happiness … by mentioning Allah and loving him.😇 😍😇 What is the Islam💎.💖 What are its beliefs? Know the best Religion on earth, the nearest to Mans mind.💎 ❤😍 😇 💎What is the secret beyond Muslims prayers? Why the white man stand beside the block one? The rich man beside the poor one, all together like brothers?💎😍 ❤Allah will help you if you help your brother is one of prohet Mohammad sayings💎😍 😃 life has no meaning withot Islam as it guide you to a permanent purpose💎😍 -------- ❤Prayers are the means to get a psychological health(islamic principle)😍 ------- Do you want a peace of mind? Islam gives it to you as it tells you what you want to know about ur first & second life💎😍 *❤ Islam is the religion of equality .❤😍 ❤Let the sun of Islam shine in your heart💎😍 💎Islam is a religion of mercy that does not permit terrorism❤💖😍 💎Islam rejects certain indivisuals or nations being favored because of their wealth,power or race, but they are favored on basis of faith and piety💜😍 💖 💎A Muslim woman is flower that does not flag❤😍 💎Prophet Mohammed is a good example of the trustee, just,merciful,compassionate,honest and brave Muslim

  100. Jones Philip
    Jones Philip
    7 napja

    Hello everyone all thanks to Dr Aba for curing me from HIV am very grateful sir